How to get your child to apologize to a friend when they do something wrong?

Dear Shannon, How do you do get your child to apologize to a friend when they do something wrong? The scenario: My child and another child were at a pool and sharing swim flippers, each child is 5 years old. My child throws one of the flippers in the deep end of the pool when it is the other child’s turn to use them and the flipper can’t be retrieved. The other child is obviously upset. What do I do? Rachel Hi Rachel, I hear your pain, or maybe more, your embarrassment and wanting to do the right thing. I can assure you, this is every parent’s feeling at this moment. Our instincts tell us to make the situation right, the question is how do we make the situation right for? Us? Our kid? The other kid? The other parent? From my experience with anyone under the age of 6 year olds, they are stretching out their wings of independence, still with a very limited idea or realization of consequences. Throwing the flipper in the deep end of the pool will have been a total experiment in curiosity. What will happen? Where will it go? This is exciting! This is so different than what we were playing before!! Yeah!! Parents automatically go to the place of, “They did that on purpose!” “They are being a brat!” “You are being bad!” (a whole other blog post to follow on useless words parents use) The parent’s Reaction A parent’s reaction dictates the response you are going to get from the child and how they will now handle this situation in future...

Black Dog Meditation – Prisoner of You?

Prisoner of You?  I watched a prisoner walk to a corrections vehicle today, with 2 guards by his side.  He shuffled his feet due to being shackled, while his hands hung infront of him in handcuffs and his head was tilted forward with his eyes looking at the ground.  When he did look up and I saw his face, his eyes looked vacant. I was struck by the similarities as to how this man resembled some of my clients when I first meet them and parents I see out in public.  Not that they are handcuffed or shackled visibly, but invisibly.  I see parents whose soul and spirit appear to be a prisoner of the human world. Are you a prisoner of your own making?  Are you a prisoner of your choices or the choices you think you should be making?  Has organics, clean eating, extreme fitness, yoga or meditation, feeling you should be further ahead, harshly comparing yourself to others,  getting “just the right item”,  behaving “well” infront of the neighbours, or “parenting” the way the books and “experts” say,  got you leaning more to your human side than to your spirit & soul’s side???? In general there is nothing wrong with the list of items above that people choose to follow, but when you start to lose yourself in them and your kids become collateral of those choices, then no one is happy.   Remember, you are a spiritual being, having a human experience.  Not the other way around.  If you are not recognizing your soul self first, you will always experience feeling conflict, always be looking for the...